Sunday, May 26, 2013

25th May 2013 (負親 – Terence Chui/說不出的 – Rico Long)

The song that I chose for today is “負親” by Terence Chui. This song is very new. I only hear this song yesterday and I love it. This song uses the same melody as “說不出的” by Rico Long but with different lyrics. Both Terence and Rico are originated from Macau. I think the two of them are good friends. Rico’s version is good as well, but I prefer Terence’s version. My tears almost dropped when I listen to this song. It is hard to get a translation on the title, as it plays with words. The pronunciation of the title is the same as “父親” meaning father. But as can be seen the first word is different, this word “” means owe in this context. So the title indicated that it is a song about father and that the protagonist of the song feel that he owe his father something. By the way, the lyrics were especially written for Terence to describe his relationship with his father who had passed away last year.

The lyrics of the song are about the relationship between father and son. It starts with the protagonist telling us that he is thinking of the time when he first meets his dad. He was scare of his fathers’ pointy beard. He cried and moves backward, but his father was speaking to his mother tenderly that he is very naughty. When he was six, he was still scare of his father. Perhaps it was his father’s straight faces that tell him not to talk to his dad. From then on, even saying goodnight to his dad he need to think about it for a long time. He feel that his relationship with his dad is like a couple who just breakup. Times fly, now when they have dinner together, they don’t talk to each other. He feels that they are worse than two strangers. Ten years later, one night, he saw that his dad needs to relay on a machine to breath. He hold his father’s slightly warm hand and told him that please don’t leave. He said goodnight to his dad, and until now, he realised that he couldn’t think of anything happy between him and his father. His tears start to drop, and he feels that this will be the last time that they see each other. Time could not return to the beginning, he realised that he missed so much opportunity to create good memories. Now it is too late to make any promises, he can only keep these words to himself. His guilt of not being nice to his dad will never fade away. The hug that he put away, the letters that he didn’t post, now at the funeral, they are completely useless. Next to his dad’s tombstone, even if he tries to tell his dad about all the little things that happened today, his dad will not respond. Perhaps when he was a kid, if he had the courage to say “I love you”, then perhaps, the two of them would have been a lot closer.

This song is very touching, even reading the lyrics make me cry. I guess this a very typical story amount Chinese (or even Asian) community. As a Chinese, we tend not to say “I love you” to our parents. We assume that they know, they understand, we feel embarrassed to show these feeling, but sometime, this lead to misunderstanding. By the time we realised it, it might have been too late. So perhaps we should act before it is too late. Hope you will like the song. I also linked to Rico’s “說不出的”, it is also about the relationship between father and son, but I like Terence’s version much more.

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負親 – Terence Chui


說不出的 – Rico Long

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